Mistress Katja FAQ

Is professional Domination prostitution?
No! We will not be having sex, although Domination is certainly erotic. If you are looking for sexual contact, you would be more satisfied elsewhere. I respect prostitution and sensual massage as separate types of sex work, but I never have been, and never will be, an escort. There are escorts who make forays into professional Domination, but I am not one of them. Like the clients who see Me, I have a genuine sexual orientation towards kink, fetish, and power-exchange. I believe true Dominants are born and not made. If you are a submissive or slave at heart, there is no substitute for submission to a Dominant who understands your desires from personal experience.

What happens during a session?
First, I will lead us in a conversation about your fantasies, limits, and desires. I’m sure you must have some naughty fantasies to confess! Maybe you have questions for Me as well. After our chat, the session will begin and My Dominant instincts will pick up seamlessly where our discussion trails off, incorporating what I we have discussed into an original scene. You will have a “safe word” to stop the scene if you must. Your submission and secret fetishes bring Me pleasure. I am open to, and experienced with, many different BDSM modalities.

What is Your past experience in Domination?
I have been a lifestyle Domina since My kinky side surfaced as a teenager. During My college years I brought My vast personal experience into the professional realm by doing sessions part time. I genuinely enjoyed it and continued after college, always remaining selective about My clientele and taking only sessions that truly interested Me. I have plenty of experience, without being burned-out.

Arranging a session takes time on My part, whether or not the session happens. Reserving time for your appointment means I won’t be taking other possible sessions during that time. Until I know and trust you, a $50+ deposit toward your total donation, payable by money order or credit card (through Keen,) is expected. If you need reassurance about doing this, you may see My references on the Max Fisch forums, with keyword searches for “Katja” and “Seattle.”

Are You in control if i’m telling You what i want You to do to me?
This is one of the most contentious aspects of professional Domination. As I see it, on the spectrum of possible types of submission, “topping from the bottom” is at one end 24/7 slavery is at the other. Some clients who see a pro Domme feel that She is providing a service by playing a role in a fantasy of theirs. They temporarily give over power within very narrow confines of a pre-negotiated scene. At the other extreme, the submissive comes to see his Dominatrix with few expectations and few if any limits, satisfied that She will be deciding what is best for him, that She is an expert guiding his journey as a submissive, and that he is released from self-authority while he is with Her. Everything She does is a surprise, and their time together is full of mystery, suspense, and erotic tension. You can probably tell which scenario I prefer! In My experience, the client who starts out wanting to have a lot of say-so over the scene eventually desires to move further along the continuum toward ever deeper submission, once he realizes the depth of trust and rapport possible. I understand that submissives who want a tightly scripted scene feel they have a valid reason for it. As a Domina I accept a submissive as if they are a new student when they come to Me. We may begin at their current comfort level, but irresistible invitations to new vistas are offered, and with time the unique nature of each individual’s underlying submissive needs are explored. I watch the submissive fall more deeply under My spell with each visit, smiling smugly to Myself at the deeper submission they may have never dreamed possible.

Do You really like being a Dominatrix?
Yes! I certainly am not in this line of work for lack of education or other career opportunities. I left a more mainstream professional career to pursue professional Domination full time. I am so glad that I did! I am unusually well suited to it, since I genuinely enjoy such a wide variety of fetishes and styles of Dominance. There are only a few things that I DON’T like to do. In scene-speak I would fall partially into the category of “Service Top,” meaning that I find satisfaction as a Dominant in fulfilling My submissives' needs. That was true long before I went pro. This is a fortunate orientation for a Professional Domme, since most people who come to see Me do so because they have submissive and fetish needs they are trying to satisfy. If a submissive is courteous, deferential, and communicative about their needs, My Dominance feels not at all compromised by artfully eliciting their submission through manipulation of their stated desires. I equally enjoy being served and pampered like royalty, by those submissives that are oriented towards selfless service. Domination is one of My favorite art forms, and I am greatly fulfilled by it. It is very gratifying to help others find such rare and meaningful satisfaction.

What are Your favorite types of play?
I like to explore BDSM in its stunning diversity, but I do have a few favorites that make me feel particularly naughty! Chastity play, tease and denial, CBT, forced feminization, foot worship, age play, medical play, and slut training are some of my preferred activities. Humiliation is extremely exciting for Me. I can be equally interested in severe sadism or sweet Mommying. What makes play most pleasurable for Me is entering the mysterious sub/Domme dynamic, when I sense the submissive falling under My spell, going into “subspace” or “bottom space.” It is erotic power itself that satisfies Me. There are so many types of it to enjoy.

What types of sessions don’t You like?
As in most things in life, context is everything. My preferences are mainly not for or against particular activities, but for the experience of Domination itself. I like to session with true submissives. Fetishists and masochists that are not also submissive or at least extremely polite, gentle, and deferential are not My preference these days. I will consider you on an individual basis, of course. I don’t particularly like “vanilla” strap-on sessions that are mainly about physical stimulation, without My favorite Dominant themes of consensual coercion, molestation, or humiliation, etc. Those energies may be present in very subtle ways, however, and I can still be pleased by the scene. I am absolutely not available for Dominance sessions that involve sexual or excessive physical contact. My body is not completely revealed, “worship” is allowed below the knee only, “smothering” is done without undressing fully, and “sensual massage” is not involved.

What is Your demeanor and style in session?
I am told by My devotees that grace, intellect, compassion, and emotionally edgy sessions are the hallmarks of My style as a Dominant. My demeanor is versatile and naturally changes to match the tone of the session. Sometimes I am cool, elegant, and severe, other times, coy and sweet, in contrast with the wicked torments I administer. Outside of the session, before and after the scene, I am friendly yet reserved. Although the physical aspects of My sessions tend to stay in the moderate realms of BDSM, avoiding both the mildest and the most extreme forms of play, I have a penchant for “emotional edge-play.” Panic, intimidation, humiliation, predicaments, molestation, mind-fuck, shame, frustration, and coercion are some of My favorite elements. As I said, I do appreciate variety, so if these are not your main interests we may still be a very good match, but if you are a connoisseur of the psychological forms of BDSM, as well as the physical, you may find yourself positively possessed.

What are the possibilities for our relationship as sub and Pro Domme?
There are many options. Each relationship is as distinct as those involved, ranging from casual to in-depth. Some clients see our time together as an occasional outlet for their kinky side. Some relationships have a friendly tone, and some are consistently formal. A few very special connections become relationships of mutual passion, despite their existence within the professional realm. I appreciate the variety, but My favorite relationships are those that are regular and ongoing over long periods of time, so that trust and exploration can deepen.

What do You wear during a session?
Costume is a sensory delight, and one of many routes to a submissive’s heart. I have an enviable fetish wardrobe, although I usually am not seen fitting the “Dominatrix stereotype” in terms of dress, unless a fetishist has a special request for corsets, leather, rubber, or vinyl. I often wear a short, form-fitting black dress and tall black boots, or high heals, stockings, and garters during a session. I love maternal-discipline scenes that involve a mommy, nurse, or teacher costume. If your fetish involves the indulgence of desires for a particular costume or fabric, you are permitted to make a polite request.

Do You offer double-sessions with other Dominas?
Yes, I am available for double or triple sessions with other Dominas, but I prefer not to do this on the first session. First I must train you how to behave in front of My friends. Then, you will be better prepared to perform for them. Training for a future session is a joy in itself. Out of town visitors can take advantage of this if they can have two sessions with Me during their visit.

How do I arrange a public session with you?
Public sessions are also reserved for submissives I already know and have trained for the outing. Most public sessions are for forced feminization or humiliation. First you will come see Me for training in exactly how you will look and behave in public. We will dress you up and practice your walk, your speech, and your ability to follow orders. The training session itself is a great fantasy experience!

When is communicating one's preferences "topping from the bottom?"
A sub is topping from the bottom when he or she tells the Dominant exactly what to do. This is different from communicating the details of one’s submissive desires and fetishes to the Dominant, so that She can relate more fully to the unique individual She is Dominating. In My opinion, there’s nothing wrong with topping from the bottom, it’s just an extremely light form of Domination, and is really more like role play. If this is what you desire, there are plenty of light, role play providers out there and you should avail yourself of their services. I actually don’t mind doing a small amount of this fantasy-Domination if I like a submissive, especially because it can be a gentle introduction to the experience, with deeper levels to follow. Everyone has to start somewhere, and BDSM is so taboo that most people lack the information and self-awareness to know very much about their submissive needs. It is unlikely that most submissives will be satisfied by such frustratingly light Domination for very long, especially after they learn more about themselves. I can’t tolerate very much topping from the bottom, however, since it really amounts to “pretend Domination” and I am not a pretend-Dominatrix. What I like to do is not for everyone, but for the right submissive, the experience is the fulfillment of an undeniable need and often a life-long craving.

What can i do as a submissive/fetishist to truly please You?
Worship, trust, serve, communicate, and obey. I appreciate compliments, gifts, cards, flowers, and fine wine, presented in a chivalrous manner at the beginning of the session. I enjoy being entrusted with creative control over the session and I like a responsive submissive who allows Me to see how they are feeling in the scene. Offers of sexual service do not please Me. Quite the opposite. I am a Dominant and your submission is what I find pleasing.